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you and a group of friends in your community have gone through everything together:

The good. The bad. The ugly.

You’ve had so much in common over the last few years.

The latest commonality is the fact that you are all empty nesters.

The one thing that you don’t share in common is the pileup of clutter in your home. Once your young adult children left home, you started missing them so much that every time you went to a thrift store, flea market, or department store, you bought items that reminded you of their infancy, childhood, and teenage years.

It started off as a minor hobby. But then it got to the point that you couldn’t stop yourself.

Last week, you purchased a coffee table that resembled one you owned when your children were toddlers, hoping that this table would keep the memories alive.

At the point of empty nesting, your friends gave their children their belongings, purged unnecessary items, and decided that they would only live with the items that they needed, brought them joy, and were functional for this season of their lives.

For some reason, you couldn’t do it.

Every time they offer to have small group, girls’ night in, or game night at your house, you come up with a lame excuse as to why your house won’t work:

Their homes are bigger.

At this person‘s house, you’re able to see the sunset better.

This person’s house is more centrally located.

This person lives closer to the lake.

The list of excuses go on and on and on.

But at least you can pat yourself on the back for the few times within the past year that you’ve made your way to Goodwill and donated.

The problem with the Goodwill trips is that for every piece you donate, you quickly replace it with three times more . It’s a vicious cycle.

You’ve lived in an alternate reality of a false sense of control, comfort, safety, and security for so long that you don’t know who you are.

Trauma works as a portal for allowing your identity to be stolen by placing it in a state of numbness and clutter: excess people, places, things, and ideas), and causing your soul(mind, will, and emotions) to be locked into it.

As soon as you get rid of a few items, you suffer from the “lost in the woods” trauma effect, where you have an existential crisis.

You feel lost. You don’t know who you are and what you’ll do if you don’t have these items. You’re afraid that the memories will disappear because the items are gone.

And when you buy things, you’re buying them based on the identity of every other family member, friend, coworker, business, and ministry partner. You don’t know who you are because your soul, space, and identity has been flooded with and overtaken by stuff.

Thus, you enter the LACK(love, approval, comfort, and knowledge) cycle of addiction. These items are expected to give you a false sense of love. Then the false sense of love fuels the approval addiction, because now you feel like at least you can compete and measure up to others.

And then the approval addiction gives you a false sense of comfort. And then the comfort addiction leads you to gaining more and more knowledge about the items that you accumulated and have done nothing with, and then the cycle starts all over again.

There are only three things that you can do with emotional and physical clutter:

You can Keep it (internalization), give it away (blow your trauma clutter through someone else), or throw it away ( process the pain properly and throw the unnecessary and unfruitful out and move forward).

Only you can decide which path you’ll take.

Go on a 1 year journey of Coaching, cleaning, Decluttering, and home Organization.

Declutter your memories.

Declutter your home.

Declutter your life.

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katina horton, the love & freedom toxic relationship recovery coach
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I understand how hard it is to rebuild your life after a high-conflict divorce, compounded trauma, and narcissistic abuse. Since 2014, I’ve been on my own resilience journey. I also understand how difficult it is to go through the process of moving repeatedly as one of the many byproducts of divorce and financial devastation. i’ve had to do the work of decluttering my soul, space, and identity after six moves within ten years.

However, going through this decluttering process has helped me to understand what is and isn’t important , how an excess of people, places, things, and ideas affect the soul, space, and identity, and what i truly need in order to be content and embracing the manner in which god has wired me.

i finished raising my two kids on my own (I am so proud of the young people they have become). I am the author of eleven books on the subjects of healing, identity, self-worth, trauma, divorce, rebuilding, narcissistic abuse recovery, and navigating toxic relationships.

I have a BS in Business Administration, focused in Management, and a Masters in Information Technology. While these two fields may appear unrelated to healing and rebuilding, they’re not. The same approach to troubleshooting, building, and rebuilding old and new PCs are the same approaches that we use when it comes to troubleshooting and rebuilding our minds, bodies, souls, spirits, and relationships in life.

We must analyze the problem, troubleshoot the different culprits for the source of the problem, implement a plan of solution from the data that troubleshooting has revealed to us, empower ourselves and others, and then in turn impact the other people who are in relationship with us, and affected by the problem.

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