You’ve been talking about writing and publishing your dream book for a while.

Every time you attempt to journal or write anything down, you can’t. you’re at a standstill.

The truth of the matter is: you can’t write because you can’t focus. your designated writing area is filled with clutter. and thus, your soul, the soul of your writing, and the writing process in general is filled with clutter.

and everytime you attempt to write your book, you go into a state of overwhelm. you attempt to get a few thoughts/words on paper, but they are all over the place. you picked up one corner of your office/space, but it only ends up being cluttered again. that one clean corner represents one feeling that can emerge from your clouded canvas. and you’re not ready for that. a clouded canvas feels safer.

Writing is a process.  Rather than allowing yourself to be coached across the Red Sea, you are trying to run across it, and into the wilderness season of the writing process.

you put your dream of writing a book down completely, moving on to the next new shiny object.

But the next new shiny object requires an intense process as well.  and the next new shiny object also means more clutter for your writing space and wait you have down on paper. You can’t avoid it.  Instead of embracing this fact, you reject it, wondering why you have a pile of unfinished projects everywhere.

Every project that you embark upon has a 5L relational cycle attached to it, and every 5L relatioal cycle has emotions and feelings attached as well. you can’t get around the clutter.

This is why you keep suffering from the cycle of overwhelm, discombobulation, freezing up, and emotional flooding. starting multiple new shiny objects are only masking the feelings and pain.

This creates a continuous cycle of disillusionment, disappointment, discouragement, despair, and discontentment, making you think, “This couldn’t be what writing books looks like.”

And it’s not.

Your Refusal to surrender and submit to the process has made it that way.  

Simple. Functional. Grace-Filled living. takes you through Nehemiah’s Nucleus of rebuilding the walls of your mind, body. soul, and spirit, as well as rebuilding the walls of your writing process one unique design, space, style and organization at a time.

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Simplify. Adopt. Give.

I understand how hard it is to rebuild your life after a high-conflict divorce, compounded trauma, narcissistic abuse, loss, grief, and accumulated clutter.

Since 2014, I’ve been on my own resilience, flourishing, and declutterology journey. I also understand how difficult it is to go through the process of moving repeatedly as one of the many by-products of divorce and financial devastation. i’ve had to do the work of decluttering my soul, space, and identity after six moves within a ten year period.

However, going through the decluttering process has helped me to understand what is and isn’t important ; how an excess of people, places, things, and ideas affect the mind, soul, space, and identity; and what i truly need in order to be content and embrace and enjoy the manner in which god has wired me and the possessions that he has blessed me with.

i finished raising my two kids on my own (I am so proud of the young people they have become). I am the author of eleven books on the subjects of healing, identity, self-worth, self-love, self-esteem, trauma, divorce, rebuilding, narcissistic abuse recovery, and navigating toxic relationships.

I have a BS in Business Administration, focused in Management, and a Masters in Information Technology. i’ve also taken several courses on narcissistic abuse and its recovery, emotional intelligence, and trauma and grief recovery.

although relationships and computer technology may appear unrelated to healing and rebuilding, they’re not. The same approach to troubleshooting, building, and rebuilding old and new PCs are the same approaches that we use when it comes to troubleshooting and rebuilding our minds, bodies, souls, and spirits, and our relationships to our homes, food, clothes, & writing.

We must analyze the problem, troubleshoot the different culprits for the source of the problem, implement a plan of solution from the data that troubleshooting has revealed to us, empower ourselves and others, and then in turn impact the other people, places, things, and ideas who are in relationship with us, and affected by the problem. And those areas often affected by the problem include our homes, food, clothes, and writing.

we need clarity to function and enjoy the space in our homes, eat and prepare our foods, get dressed, and setup a functioning closet, and to journal our feelings, and write.